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"Get Real" In Your Relationships
Conflict in your relationship
is not merely a matter needing resolution. Realize that each challenge
brings opportunity for personal growth and greater spiritual development.
Interpersonal difficulties reveal a clear path to increased self-knowledge and discovery of emerging forms of communication. Once
you’ve accepted your personal responsibility in the conflict’s
resolution and to yourself, you’ll emerge empowered and closer
to your true self.
No doubt
about it, Dr. Phil has a point: we do need to get real and accept
our personal responsibility in successful relationships. However,
being yelled at, bullied, or insulted isn’t necessary and
won’t inspire lasting change. In fact, the presence of fear
and intimidation in our healing process will prohibit any positive
changes from lasting and block the path to self knowledge. The components
of a perfect life without the hollering are:
- A desire for change.
- Recognizing, understanding, and embracing the role of responsibility
we each have in the success of our relationships.
- Commitment and willingness to fully embrace our personal and
spiritual growth.
Once you have decided to shift the dynamics of your life, your personal
development program begins with self-examination. You must be willing to look at what
is going on in your life and realize why. Notice that you are the initiator of
change in your life—not Dr. Phil or anyone else. Once you have
decided to embrace your personal responsibility to change your life—that
you want an abundant life, quality relationships, peak health, and
a lasting connection with your spiritual core—you can have it all.
A good place to begin is with your
relationships. Do you have a quality relationship in your life?
Are you 100-percent satisfied with the communication, sex, trust, or monetary
aspects of the relationship? Are you truly fulfilled? If not, examine
your beliefs about relationships: what did you learn in your early
years about relationships? Did you learn it was possible to have
a good relationship or have you learned and believed that most relationships
end in divorce today, so yours is likely to as well? Maybe you’ve
come to believe that being in a relationship makes you a complete
person? Are you resisting something in the relationship?
The imprint from your earliest
spiritual and personal development is determining the quality of
your relationships today. Maybe your sex life suffers, communication
is only confrontational, he spends too much time with his friends,
or his drinking has become a drag. The impact of your beliefs
can be discovered in every area of your life. As you explore and change your outgrown
beliefs, you are taking responsibility for your life and its outcome.
Quit subjecting yourself
to verbal and passive abuse! Get real in your own and constructive
way. It’s a path with a guaranteed positive outcome. Stick
with it because you are worth it! A sustained commitment to personal
growth brings the most fulfilling results.
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