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Things Mom and Dad Taught Me
- I expect less every year I’m alive.
- I don’t
expect to have an intimate relationship.
- I have no preferences.
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Love is not a safe choice for me.
- I’m not important
in anyone’s life.
- I’m not good enough for happiness.
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There’s something wrong with me.
- I’m not loveable.
- There
is no such thing as love for me—maybe only for others.
- I
don’t deserve love.
- If I love him he’ll leave
me.
- I’m a neglected person.
Or...
- I am deserving of the very best; I’m
worth it!
- I’m open to an intimate relationship and
know the right one is available to me.
- I make quality choices
based on openness, understanding, and discernment. No one on the
planet knows more than I do about what I prefer in my life.
- Love
is the essence of my being. Love grows in my life as I demonstrate
love for others. I not only deserve to be loved, I trust that
I will experience sustaining relationships that allow me to demonstrate
and receive love.
- I no longer choose to perceive myself as
neglected or ignored. I am fully alive, awake, and receptive to
living a life of quality and joy.
- No one on the planet is
truly evil by nature—and neither am I. I am filled with
the light of love and I choose that as my identity rather than
an illusive label of "evil."
Every one of us has been raised
with someone’s perception of life, how we should live it,
and who we are. All of the should, should not, don’t,
and noes of our early upbringing are regrettably
a reflection of our parents’ views, beliefs, and culture.
Frankly, few of those perceptions and beliefs are true or even applicable
in our own lives. Why would they necessarily have to be right?
Few of us like to question or criticize
our parents. The concept that blood is thicker than water runs
deeper than we suspect. The fact is however, most of our parents’
core beliefs about raising children and life were acquired from
their parents, and their parents acquired them before that. Even
the law is based on beliefs and practices that are frequently outdated.
For example, how often do you have someone walk ahead of your car
with a lantern in the fog? Some states still have laws as outdated
as that in their books. Did you know that what women find attractive
in a man is mostly a result of cultural beliefs about beauty?
The point is, our parents’
basic beliefs may have—and may not have—worked for them,
but what evidence do we have that they’re working for us?
Could you be losing your identity in the shadow of faded beliefs?
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qualify in which areas of life you are happy and in others where
you are not. Try it.
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