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Help Yourself to the Perfect Mate
So you’ve dated dud after
dud and can’t seem to find a match. He or she is either too
poor, too rich, too nice, too irritating, trying too hard, or just
fine except that there’s absolutely no chemistry. Your married
friends keep telling you there are plenty of fish in the sea, but
you think to yourself, "Easy for you to say. You’re
already hooked!" You’ve even gone on a weight loss diet
and studied up on commitment phobia or how to satisfy a man. But
it’s the same ole, same ole. You’re stuck at home on
a Saturday night with only your cat to cuddle with.
First, you must accept your current
situation. This means adopting an attitude of gratitude. So, you
stayed home with your cat. What’s so bad about that? It’s
your belief about staying home with your cat that affects you, not
the act. Did you sulk all night or did you use the time to give
yourself a long bath or to read that forgotten book or watch an
uplifting movie? Feeling sorry for yourself will not only get you
nowhere, it will probably keep you alone because you’ll be
going into the relationship needy! So, write down 100 reasons why
it’s great to be single right now.
Still wanting true love after all
that? That’s fine. It’s human nature. But what you may
not realize is that it is up to you to do something about it! Quit
whining about the lack of good women or men and start by realizing
that yes, there really are plenty of fish in the sea. After all,
your thoughts create your life. So, ask that someone out, flirt,
go have some fun (whatever fun is to you). The only way to attract
someone is to be attractive. Whatever you find attractive in the
opposite sex, get for yourself! The only way to be attractive is
to do what it takes to make yourself attractive…from the inside.
Have you ever noticed that an average-looking
person on the outside has Brad Pitt written all over him when he’s
having a good time? And how a supermodel can look like Cruella de
Ville when she’s acting like her? Well, what image is your
magic mirror showing you? Did you get that new sassy haircut, but
your eyes are puffy from crying because your life is so bad? Or
is that new lipstick just right, but your mouth is always frowning?
Are you excited about life, knowing that you have the power to do
and have anything you want? Or are you pining away the days, working
way too hard, and just plain being too hard on yourself, waiting
for the Prince or Princess? For what?! Like they say, life is short.
Are you really going to wait around for someone to come sweep you
off your feet to start living it?
If you’re serious about attracting
a soul mate, you’ve got to take the time to enjoy your life
first. And to fully enjoy your life, you’ve got to have the
right attitude about it. If you think you need a little boost to
get your attitude on track, call up some supportive friends. You
are the only one who can change your life-- so stop waiting for
the perfect someone to come do it for you!
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