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The mind-body connection can reveal the hidden \n" ); document.write( " beliefs that you may be holding onto tenaciously. Parents’ \n" ); document.write( " core values and beliefs about raising children and life in general, \n" ); document.write( " are passed through the generations unless detected, released and \n" ); document.write( " replaced with those supportive of your journey. If you are holding \n" ); document.write( " onto self-sabotaging beliefs, they will show up in all areas of \n" ); document.write( " your life, including your relationships, especially your marriage. \n" ); document.write( " If your husband is a control freak, there’s a good chance \n" ); document.write( " your father was too. Check out the following case of a woman, who \n" ); document.write( " found peace in her family life, by revisiting her past to uncover \n" ); document.write( " the beliefs that were creating her current situation.

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No, this isn’t a story for \n" ); document.write( " a Jerry Springer episode. This woman didn’t actually marry \n" ); document.write( " her father. She did, however, end up with a man very similar to \n" ); document.write( " him. Sound familiar? We often invite people into our lives that \n" ); document.write( " are "copies" of those from the past. The reason for \n" ); document.write( " the repeat is a result of our underlying beliefs.

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\n" ); document.write( " This client arrived at the office suffering from unbearable \n" ); document.write( " sores in her mouth, as well as other aches and pains, and a loss of \n" ); document.write( " love in her marriage. She wasn’t sleeping well and awoke in \n" ); document.write( " the night in a fit of panic for no obvious reason.\n" ); document.write( "

\n" ); document.write( " Her main complaint, however, involved her marriage. \n" ); document.write( " She claimed that she had a psychologically absent husband and that \n" ); document.write( " he provided no emotional support or comfort. She felt distant and \n" ); document.write( " removed from him. They tried date nights but were unsuccessful. Any \n" ); document.write( " attempt to communicate made her feel further away. When husband and \n" ); document.write( " wife no longer talk, the sense of loneliness is magnified. "I \n" ); document.write( " don’t feel safe with him," she claimed. "I live \n" ); document.write( " a life almost separate from my husband , and my children and I do \n" ); document.write( " our own thing."\n" ); document.write( "

\n" ); document.write( " In our session, we immediately looked to her past \n" ); document.write( " for answers. She recalled memories of her father, a powerful and prestigious \n" ); document.write( " man. He had a large presence that filled the room and portrayed confidence \n" ); document.write( " in all of his ventures. He spent most of his time in the office, and \n" ); document.write( " on the rare occasions she saw him, he would shrug her away. As a child, \n" ); document.write( " she craved time and attention from her father, but he had no time \n" ); document.write( " for her or for demonstrations of love in her direction. \n" ); document.write( "

\n" ); document.write( " As an adult, her beliefs became:\n" ); document.write( "

\n" ); document.write( "   "My father doesn’t \n" ); document.write( " have time for me."

\n" ); document.write( "   "I’m not important." \n" ); document.write( "

\n" ); document.write( "   " I’m not loved." \n" ); document.write( "

\n" ); document.write( "   "I’m not worthy \n" ); document.write( " of love."

\n" ); document.write( "   "I don’t matter." \n" ); document.write( "  

\n" ); document.write( "   "If I let myself be who \n" ); document.write( " I really am, I won’t be loved."\n" ); document.write( "

\n" ); document.write( " Her mother was insecure and depressed in the relationship, \n" ); document.write( " never wanting to attend the events her husband demanded of her, but \n" ); document.write( " she upheld the perfect wife routine for as long as she could. Eventually, \n" ); document.write( " after the death of a close family member, her parents divorced. During \n" ); document.write( " her middle school years, they moved in with more family members and \n" ); document.write( " she only saw her dad once a year. She remembers the constant criticisms \n" ); document.write( " of her father by her mother, and the anger that never subsided even \n" ); document.write( " into her mother’s older years. \n" ); document.write( "

\n" ); document.write( " Eventually she was able to tap into the unconscious \n" ); document.write( " and self-sabotaging beliefs about herself and about her worthiness \n" ); document.write( " in love. She was able to move from identities of insignificant, stupid, \n" ); document.write( " invisible, transparent, unworthy, unentertaining, dull, and small \n" ); document.write( " to those that recognized and supported her value, intelligence, worthiness, \n" ); document.write( " personality and greatness as a woman. She realized it was okay to \n" ); document.write( " be herself and that self-acceptance, when fully embraced, is enough \n" ); document.write( " to move us into new heights.\n" ); document.write( "

\n" ); document.write( " In no time, her appearance changed to express more \n" ); document.write( " happiness, she felt physically stronger, more connected and more in \n" ); document.write( " touch with her husband. The sores she had complained about, and that \n" ); document.write( " had been bothering her for months, were entirely gone. Rather than \n" ); document.write( " turning away from the man she love, she felt confident and safe while \n" ); document.write( " reaching out to him.\n" ); document.write( "

\n" ); document.write( " "It’s like magic!" she exclaimed, about \n" ); document.write( " the sudden, positive shifts in her life.\n" ); document.write( "

\n" ); document.write( " Tapping into forgotten beliefs and releasing them \n" ); document.write( " can feel like magic. When your father is too busy to spend time with \n" ); document.write( " you, your husband might be the same, simply because that is the programming \n" ); document.write( " with which you were parented or the programming he received about \n" ); document.write( " husband behavior from his own father. Your belief system is so ingrained, \n" ); document.write( " that it literally creates the life it has experienced repeatedly until \n" ); document.write( " it is spotlighted, and you accept new and empowering beliefs!\n" ); document.write( "

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Article courtesy of Alexandra Delis-Abrams, aka The Attitude Doc.
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