The Attitude Doc- Weekly Life Change Lessons

There is a nursery rhyme about a queen who was so jealous of a princess that she did something that would make her look foolish in the eyes of the prince, who was seeking after a “real” princess. The queen removed all the bedding from the bed where the princess slept, and laid a pea on the bottom – then she took twenty mattresses and laid them on the pea, and then twenty eider-down beds on top of the mattresses. The next morning the princess was questioned as to the quality of her sleep. Because she was a “real” princess, she was sensitive enough to the object that disturbed her sleep and spoke of having a restless night. The prince found his true love and everybody lived happily ever after.

You might be wondering how this pea story relates to changing your life? We can all learn from The Princess and The Pea nursery rhyme. When the princess was asked how she slept, her response was, “Oh, very badly! I have scarcely closed my eyes all night. Heaven only knows what was in the bed, but I was lying on something hard.” Even though the pea was hidden under all of those mattresses, she was aware and sensitive enough to feel something that interrupted her sleep.

What would the pea symbolize in your life that is preventing you from freeing your self from heartache, guilt, regret and suffering? What one memory have you allowed to hold the power over you? What belief has been buried so deeply, and felt so painful, that unlike the princess, you no longer feel. The evidence may present itself daily through health, relationship, money, career issues. In lieu of recognizing them as a wake up call, you allow your self to be distracted enough in the outer world that the “pea” lies there ignored and unattended to. Your attention is simply elsewhere. One pea can also transform into many but the chain is held together with the same sabotaging energy. That core energy can manifest through:

  • A visit to your chiropractor reveals the results of chronic stress that has settled into your muscles.
  • The extra weight just doesn’t want to come off and you’ve gone through all the known programs.
  • Your anniversary has come and you’d prefer to share it with another couple.
  • At least two days of every month physical symptoms require you to take off from work.
  • Folks you trusted are now strong candidates for betrayal and loss of self-confidence.
  • You still can’t do anything right to please your father, no matter how hard you try. You’ll never gain his approval.

Imagine what it would be like if you lifted up the mattresses and actually confronted the pea? You faced head on your belief that you’re not worthy of being loved, or your fear of being abandoned, or the desperate need to be right, or how you can’t trust others. You know what it is. Just look and be honest. A healthy and peaceful life is about full self-expression, service to humanity being motivated by your compassion for others, vitality and zest for life, solid and trusting relationships, loyal friends, purpose and passion with regard to right livelihood, supportive family, financial security, a loving partner for life — and it can all be yours. It comes with the territory if you can only be truthful with yourself.

I’ll conclude with yet another story. This one about a person who booked passage on a cruise ship. Each night at the gala dinner, he sat against the wall eating a bagged meal. A gentleman approached this man, after many times of observing his behavior, and asked why he ate alone and out of a bag. The reply was, “Oh I saved up and spent so much money on my ticket that I didn’t have enough to pay for the meals also.” The kind fellow traveler said, “But my friend, the meals are included in the price of your ticket.”

The meals that are included in the price of being in a physical include prosperity, harmony, joy, peace of mind, lasting happiness, and love. All this is available to you in the price of the ticket. Let today be the day you discover the pea, and truly claim your birthright. Initially it requires your desire and attention and then it takes some work. I designed the 21-Day Course to Self-Empowerment for this exact purpose. I’m certain you have 20-30 minutes every day for just 21 days to improve to learn to love yourself. (How long did it take for you to learn your PC?) AAA states, “that driving requires your full attention.” ADA says, “So does life.” Get on it and give yourself this gift as February, the month of love, unfolds.

Today I give thanks for my willingness to be introspective and pay attention to my life 24/7. I recognize my discoveries in awe, as my creation and take full responsibility, which empowers my every thought. I am richly rewarded as my heart sings a song of gratitude for all I learn and apply.

You do not belong to you. You belong to the universe. The significance of you will remain forever a mystery to you, but you may assume you are fulfilling your significance if you apply yourself to converting all your experience to the highest advantage of others.

-R. Buckminster Fuller

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